We Were Never Meant to Go It Alone

From the moment we’re born, we’re taught that independence is the goal.

Self-soothe. Self-improve. Do it yourself. Be strong. Don’t need too much.

And for many of us, that worked.

We learned how to survive alone.

How to raise children, make money, hold it all together, and keep going.

But somewhere along the way, we forgot that humans aren’t meant to be this separate.

We forgot that support isn’t weakness. That sisterhood isn’t a luxury. That belonging is not something to earn.

We are wired to connect.

Not perform. Not compete.

Just be, in the presence of others doing the same.

As a wife and mother, I was used to holding space for others, used to being capable.

But then I sat in circle with women I had just met — in a foreign country, no less — and something cracked open.

Not in a dramatic way. Just a quiet, steady recognition: this is what I’ve been missing.

Not therapy. Not self-help. Not advice.

Just women.

Together.

Being real.

Since then, I’ve returned home to Hawai‘i with a deeper devotion. Not to replicate that moment — but to invite it, in our own way, here.

Not to sell anything. But to create a space that reminds us: we were never meant to go it alone.

That independence and sisterhood are not opposites.

That vulnerability can be safe.

That Ma — the spaciousness between — is where we remember who we are.

This isn’t about finding answers.

It’s about remembering your roots.

The kind you can’t always see, but feel — like the quiet network of trees in the forest, sharing water and light beneath the soil.

We’re not meant to do this life in silos.

We’re meant to be rooted. Seen. Held. Nourished by the same ground.

And if you’ve been walking this road alone for too long...

You are not broken. You are not behind.

You are simply remembering.

Warmly,

Michelle

Wild Women Hawai‘i

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